10 Weird Things About Prague

15578375_10208264337951730_1567890289058496376_oCulture Shock. We all experience it when we go to a new country to some degree. Hell, I experience culture shock when I visit a new city within my country. When I went to Prague for a semester abroad at the end of last summer, I thought I didn’t really experience unanticipated culture shock. I did my research. I went not knowing the language and that it would be hard. I knew what the city looked like and behaved like from talking to someone who had gone and from intense Googling. I wasn’t overly cocky but I was less shocked than people who didn’t do their research (I love research). By the end of my trip, I asked myself if there wasn’t anything I found weird and confusing that I had no idea about. Some of the following things I did know about but was still shocked by. Some things were delightful, some offputting, and other just weird. Below are my 10 things I found to be weird in Prague while living there.

#1- Drinking beer with lunch

I grew up drinking water (sometimes milk) with every meal. As an adult, sometimes I’ll treat myself to a glass of wine or beer at dinner. In Prague drinking beer with your lunch was the regular thing to do and then again at dinner. Of course, once I went out that night (see #9) I would have a few more beers. It’s still a miracle that I didn’t gain weight on that trip. I highly recommend a cerny beer with svíčková for lunch in the colder months and a pilsner with chlebíčky for a summer picnic at Vyšehrad.

#2- Smoking is legal in bars

If smoke really irritates you, your options for Prague nightlife are limiting. Smoking is still legal in bars and clubs and certain ones are rife with it. It didn’t bother me after the first few weekends but it took a while to adjust. If you’re traveling there and want to avoid the smoke, bars are often less smokey (some smoke-free!) than clubs.

#3- Cars parked on the sidewalk

I wish I had a photo of this. As far as I know, it’s legal and sometimes encouraged for cars to park on what we would call the sidewalk on a regular basis. You find yourself walking down a cobblestone street, turn the corner, and suddenly, there it is: a car in your path and your brain struggles to comprehend the madness. Like everything on this list, you get used to it and if you stay long enough, these irritations become quaint and the things you miss.

#4- Quiet Metro stations

Let me start by saying I have not been in many metro stations but I discussed this with many friends who have while I was in Prague and we all agreed: the stations are strangely quiet. With the exception of school groups or loud, drunk tourists, each busy station was a place where you talk at a normal volume or keep to yourself. Also, they are really clean and efficient.

#5- Scented toilet paper

You’ve looked up the Czech word for toilet paper (toaletní papír) and you know you don’t have to spend much because of the great exchange rate for crowns. You manage to find the right aisle all on your own without asking a store assistant (not that you’d know how or that they’d offer). You are staring down the toilet paper and realize you don’t know the words for soft or strong so you go with the best photo: this one has daisies on it. Cool. You buy it and get home to find out that those aren’t daisies, they’re chamomile and although (you later discover) most toilet paper pictures match their scent, this toilet paper smells nothing like chamomile. You eventually run out and return to the store hoping to fix your simple mistake. Just buy unscented! Joke’s on you! Unscented toilet paper is really hard to find and I do not know why but this was one of the strangest pet peeves of mine (and culture shocks) while in Prague.

#6- Public urination

Drunk people like to pee where they shouldn’t. No, it’s not legal. In fact, one of my friends got a ticket for it. Luckily it’s not everywhere and you learn to avoid the places where it never seems to go away (rain and street cleaners help). Oh, Piss Alley! How I don’t miss you! To avoid making this life mistake, go into a nearby bar or restaurant and use their facilities. Unlike in Portland and Seattle, it is really easy to use a public toilet and you don’t need a key or code. Just say “Toilet?” or “Toaleta?” and look desperate.

#7- Separate rooms for the toilet and shower

I’m not sure if this is the case in the hotels, but in Prague apartments toilets and showers can be separate. They also put the washer in the shower room (no dryer but I knew that before I left). The shower room had a sink. The toilet room had a sink too. They weren’t even next to each other! The architect put a bedroom between them. It actually turned out to be really convenient when you live with four other women (until someone needs the washer and you’re in the shower).

#8- Monthly alarm tests

I watch a lot of period-piece films and TV shows, especially ones that are set in the U.K. or European countries. So I’ve been trained to be afraid of air-raid sirens even though I’ve never lived in a time or place that has used them. Until Prague. Prague has a lovely air siren testing that they do once a month. I don’t know how I didn’t learn this until after a test (or two). I guess I just didn’t ask and assumed because there wasn’t chaos in the streets that everything was ok. I think I even told myself the first time that it might be for a film but nothing can replace that fear I felt the first time I heard it and the confusion that came with it.

#9- 19th century buildings as a standard

I grew up, and currently, live, on the West coast of the United States. The oldest building here are wooden churches that have miraculously held themselves together since the late 18th century. They are a marvel because they are still standing but architectural beauties they are not. I had been to Europe before my trip to Prague so I had seen beautiful old buildings but living in an old city was something else.

Prague’s ‘New Town’ was built in the 14th century, nothing got wiped out in any wars, and the historic preservation is top notch. If you like history, if you like pretty buildings, if you like old buildings as well as modern ones, Prague is great. I never got used to walking next to these places. My childhood home was built in the 1980s but my apartment in Prague was built in the 1880s.

#10- Every night nightlife

If you couldn’t already tell, I am a woman in my early 20s and I like alcohol. Moreso, I like dancing. Sometimes, I like them at the same time. I didn’t realize just how much I loved this combination until I went to Prague. A friend of mine who has traveled a great deal moved to Prague after living for a time in Budapest. He said he thought Budapest’s nightlife was crazy until he went to Prague. By ‘crazy’ he meant the phenomenon of partying every night in a tourist city. Every night. Monday through Sunday any place in Old Town, New Town, those crazy places across the river farther away from the tourist center will have something going on. I personally have a theory that Wednesday’s and Sunday’s are the hardest nights to go out because fewer people are visiting and more places are empty. Locals who like to party go out on weird nights too, day jobs be damned.

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Living Abroad Without a Phone

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About two and a half weeks ago my phone screen shattered. No, I do not have an iPhone (reasons I don’t own an iPhone). This was my two year old Sony I dropped for the millionth time but this time it decided to shatter. I finally found a repair place last Monday and now i’m just waiting. Beyond the loss of a map, notepad, alarm clock, calculator, translator, or social media, I was devastated at the loss of my camera. In fact, I did not see my broken phone as a problem until I realized that it meant I was without a camera. I had no way to document my new adventures in, and outside of Prague. More importantly, I had no way to flex my creative skills. I didn’t understand my love for photography until my phone broke. In the past I used family cameras and I once had my own digital camera. I took a class in middle school. But I always thought it was just another random artist hobby of mine. Tomorrow I’m going to buy a cheap Nikon because I can’t go another day without a camera. When I return to the states I might even play with film because that sounds like something I could devote my free time to and cultivate a skill with.

Besides the camera I’m buying tomorrow, I went to the stores a few days after the accident and bought a notepad, pencil, and watch. These are the basics I need to get by. I write down directions before I leave the house (does anyone else remember the days of printing off directions from MapQuest?) and if I get lost I just figure it out or stay lost. I could also practice my Czech and ask for directions but I don’t even like doing that in English (it’s a pride thing I’m working on). I also take notes on what I’m spending for the times I don’t get a receipt, which is often (Prague is a cash-reliant city). I write down funny things my friends say or recommendations for restaurants. I also write down new Czech words I might need to say to someone like the word for camera case (pouzdro). These are all things I did before on my phone but now I’m completely comfortable doing on a paper notepad.

The upsides to not having a phone? I pay more attention to the world around me. I am less nervous and I can stand waiting for the metro and just stand there. However, I have turned into that person who checks their watch often which I’m trying to stop doing. I also appreciate things alone and in the moment. I don’t need to share everything constantly (although when I get home I’m on Facebook, etc. a lot). My social life has not suffered because I make appointments to hang out or do things with people. Do I want to continue without a phone when it’s fixed? No. But my phone here already lacks data so I am limited to areas with wifi or non-data apps like the translator. From now on I will always be more confident with my decisions. Left or right? Does that look like cake flour or bread flour? What’s that price in dollars? Let’s try it and find out. I don’t want to use a phone as a crutch for my insecurities. You shouldn’t either.

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First Days in Prague

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My first few days in Prague were very interesting. I flew independent of the arranged group flight suggested by USAC and a few days before most of the other students. I arrived at my apartment after successfully navigating public transportation from the airport (I had help). Then I had to talk to a bartender in the establishment next door to my place to get my key. My building was empty for the next three days except for myself. Luckily my place came fully furnished but I still went to Ikea for towels.

Despite my lack of sleep I had an amazing amount of energy when I arrived. I spent those first four days familiarizing myself with my neighborhood. Tourist attractions could wait: I was living in Prague. One of the first things I found that brought me instant happiness was the park two blocks from my home. It’s nothing spectacular but it has a nice fountain at the center, many benches, and it sits opposite a beautiful church. This became an important part of my home like my backyard. I ate baguette sandwiches (very popular here) and drank lattes while people watching. The park continues to be a source of comfort, happiness, and inspiration.

In those first few days I learned to accept the fact that I didn’t know the language. I couldn’t read the signs but I memorized the routes I took. Unfortunately the closest McDonald’s became a landmark that reminded me I’m close to home (I don’t eat there though).  The only Czech I knew before I left home was ‘yes’, ‘no’, ‘please’, and ‘thank you’. The latter two were particularly difficult for me. I also took a look at the alphabet through YouTube videos but I still couldn’t form words. Now, after taking my two-week language intensive course life is a bit easier.

I didn’t want to celebrate my first night alone so I searched the program for other early arrivals. Sure enough, there was a couple, Sammy and Gabe, who had also flown in on Wednesday. I emailed them and next thing you know we were sharing our stories over beer in the bar beneath my apartment.

By Friday night I was ready to experience the Prague nightlife I’d heard so much about. Sammy and Gabe weren’t available so I tapped into the local Couchsurfing network through their Hang Out feature. This app  and what I call a sub-app, connects travelers who want to share beers, go do tourist activities together, or simply walk around. There I found a group of people looking to go out and within the group was an Austrian who I’d given directions to in the metro the night before.

I met so many amazing people that night and the next. There is a large expat population here as well as a constant stream of tourists from around the world. I met Daniel from Cuba who grew up in Italy learning Russian from his mother. He also spoke Czech and English. He knew several other Italians living in Prague, some of which I met. In another post I’ll discuss the international food here. I met a stag party from England and a citizen from Hong Kong who learned his English in Australia. I spent most of my evening meeting people from several different countries. Then there was the nightlife!

I think on Friday we must have gone to four different clubs. Popo’s is where we started which is a great underground bar to hang out in groups and drink cheap beer in the heart of the city (Old Town). Then we went dancing at Hangar, a PanAm themed club where even the waitresses are in costume. The last place I remember the name of was called Fancy, also a great hip hop club. Saturday I discovered La Bodeguita, Lucerna, and James Dean Club. The first is a Cuban dance spot. The second has a huge dance floor and plays throwbacks but sometimes charges a cover at the door. The last bar, James Dean, looks exactly like it sounds but they play modern dance tunes downstairs.

Those first few days were thrilling and I had the chance to get to know a very interesting city. Prague is full of winding roads that lead you to hidden places of interest, you just have to be willing to look. It has been fun finding something new every day and meeting other travelers. Do you want to know about the places I went? What the food is really like? Cultural differences from the U.S.? Ask me anything in the comments below or simply tell me what you thought!

From Portland to Prague

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Ahoj!

My name is Tara and I am a twenty-three year old studying abroad in Prague. Every day I ask myself in awe, how did I get here? Today I want to share that story.

“Follow your dreams”, “Do what you love”, “Listen to your inner child.”

This is the advice I received. I was told, by individuals and my community, to find the one thing I’ve always been interested in and run with it. That’s easier said than done. As far back as I can remember, I wanted to follow a different career path every couple months. The earliest career goal I remember was to be a singer or actress, or both. Then I wanted to be a dancer, painter, writer, president, fashion designer, musician, graphic designer, librarian, bookstore owner, knick-knack shop owner, bakery owner, teacher, journalist, photographer, lingerie designer, publicist, magazine editor, public speaker, matchmaker, director and the list goes on. So deciding on one thing that always spoke to me was a difficult task. But I spent some time on it and thought about all the things I loved over the years despite my changing heart. My answer was, and is, travel.

There are three things I’m very sure of at this time in my life: I love to talk, I love people, and I love to travel. My parents took me to so many places in my childhood and I am so grateful for those experiences. My first trip abroad was at the age of three when I attended my aunt’s wedding in Ireland. This is how the travel bug got me. I was only three years old and I remember this beautiful foreign country and wonderful times with my family. The next trip was about two years later and we went to Amsterdam, Paris, Marbella, Gibraltar, and Tangier. I had my sixth birthday in Spain. By this point, I started falling in love with traveling and with Europe.

It took me almost fifteen years before I visited Europe again (this time solo, which will be a blog post later). But in the meantime we traveled in the states: Oregon, California, Hawaii, Idaho, Montana, and Florida. Then there were also the trips to Canada and Mexico. There was a cruise (which I did not like but that’s a story for another time) to the Caribbean and several countries. By the time I got to be eighteen I had a complete stranger call me a “World Traveler” after hearing me list all the countries I’d been to. I liked the sound of that: “World Traveler”. That is a title I can live with, I thought to myself at the time.

A few years later, as I went back to college at Portland State University, I had to decide on a major. I had transferred in at a junior level standing so choosing my major was a serious matter. After a term as a Communications major I switched to International Studies: Europe and then took on a minor in History. This decision was made after concluding that travel would become the main motivator in my life. So I chose a degree program where I would learn about the world and Europe. Will it help me get a job? I’m not sure but I am learning about what I love.

In December 2015 I started the process of choosing a study abroad program with my school. Studying abroad or living abroad is a common thing in my extended family (whom I am close with). Out of my eight aunts and uncles, six have traveled extensively, three have lived abroad outside of any school program, and three have studied abroad. My sister also studied abroad in Oaxaca, Mexico as a college student and my brother spent time prepping for the SAT in Singapore. So my family was not entirely surprised when I announced I wanted to study abroad.

By the end of December I chose my program to travel with USAC in Prague, Czech Republic, studying Politics, Culture, and Art. I applied and was accepted by spring. I put my dreams before any potential roadblocks like the lack of funding I knew I would have to work through. I put the practical part of me aside a little bit so that the dreamer in me could take charge. That choice was for the best in the end but it scared me every step of the way to getting here (and still some days, even now). To solve part of my funding problem I started a crowdfunding page on YouCaring which is a non-profit site that only charges for credit card processing. That fundraiser was followed by another (still up at this point). Through those fundraisers I collected over two thousand dollars from seventeen different donors (both online and offline donations). I can never say thank you enough to all the people who donated to my fundraiser or have helped me out financially in some way to get me here. I could not be here without you.  

The majority of my trip is being paid for in school loans followed by private funding and grants. I finally got through to FAFSA that I am a broke college student and my school rewarded me with all they could. Unfortunately I was unable to win any of the scholarships I applied for. But I made it. I got here, to Prague, with almost no money to my name. If I had worked full time consistently since returning from Ireland I would have been able to afford this trip out of pocket. But that was not an option. Again, I am really thankful for my friends, family, school, and government for making this trip possible.

Ok, so back to my story. I bought my plane ticket to Prague in March and a return ticket from Amsterdam in May. I’ll be studying for three and a half months in Prague followed by a two week vacation visiting my family in Amsterdam and Dublin for the holidays (and my birthday). I flew out here on August 30th/31st on three different planes and with very little sleep. Then I landed and took Prague into my heart almost instantly.

I really believe this is where I am supposed to be in my life at this time. Every day, there is something that reminds me I made the right choice, even on the bad days. While I am here I will be blogging and journaling my experiences. I also love taking photos (unfortunately these days I’m limited to my cell phone) and posting them on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and of course right here on my blog. My writing will be far from perfect but I hope you get something from reading it. I am willing to talk about nearly anything on here and I want to hear what you’d like to read. What do you want to know about Prague? Do you have any questions about my trip or program? Please let me know in the comments section below or through any social media platform I am on.

Čau for now!

How to Have a Minimalist Eco-Friendly Wedding

Weddings are not a minimalist or eco-friendly affair by their very nature. The cultural custom that is an American wedding involves tons of waste both physically and often emotionally: The Dress, the food, the cake, the transportation, the family squabbles, the flowers, the decorations, the spending! You know what the most minimalist wedding is? No wedding at all. Not even a legal marriage. It’s saying, “I love you and I am committed to you” and actually meaning it. The next option is to get legally married in court or by an officiant with just the three of you and maybe witnesses.

 

But I like weddings. I like tradition (most of the time) and I like excuses to throw a party. Which is exactly what a wedding is and don’t let anyone tell you any different! However, parties can be wasteful and I don’t like that. So this is my official guide to creating a balance between tradition (whatever that means to you) and minimalism/environmental consciousness. *This is not an all-inclusive list. I wanted to add things that maybe you haven’t considered.

  1. Set a Budget. It’s the first step in planning a wedding or party of any sort. It doesn’t have to be final or finite but know a ballpark number. Are you looking to spend $1,000? 5,000? $10,000? $50,000? Or closer to $100,000 or more? This is important because some options cost more money like compostable plates instead of paper.
  2. Figure out what traditions you want and skip the ones you don’t. By “you” I mean both of you as a couple. This is a union, after all. Because weddings are a cultural ceremony built on tradition this is where you should start and build from. Do you really love flowers? Then have flowers. Don’t get into the details right now but write down “flowers” (I suggest you keep a notepad nearby for this exercise or an electronic notepad). Do you really love food and the idea of feeding people? Write it down. Common wedding elements include: a ceremony (involving an officiant, an audience, and a sequence of words), a reception (involving food, drink that is often alcoholic, and music/dancing), flowers, an indoor space, an outdoor space, photographs (often taken by a professional), cake (and a ceremony around cutting it), gift giving (on both ends), toasts, a white formal wedding dress, suits or tuxedos, a receiving line, and general partying behavior. If you don’t like a tradition, skip it altogether and save on costs and time (e.g. skipping a guest book saves on paper and items for you to bring home). Write down the fantasy you have in your head when you think of your wedding. It’s ok if you don’t have one.
  3. Chose a fitting season. This should be slightly connected to your selected traditions. If you really love flowers (I do, so that’s my example), maybe a wedding in the spring or summer would be more wise. If you love big, hearty meals, I would suggest a fall or winter wedding. Also, if you naturally have more money at one point in the year or have an easier time to bring together family and friends, chose that season.
  4. Chose a beautiful venue. If you get married in the mountains in a lodge with a view everyone will be focused on the view and care less about the decorations. Same goes for getting married in a garden in the spring or in the woods. The more basic the place the more you might feel like you need to add. However, if your venue has clean lines and a modern design that you like then go with that. The more you like it without decorations the less you’ll want to add later. Some ideas: churches with architectural details or stained glass, a museum or art gallery, the woods, a park, a garden, your home or someone else’s home, the zoo, a college campus, the beach, by any body of water (including pools), in the mountains, in the desert surrounded by beautiful rocks, underwater (hard to pull off), on a boat, a historic building, and in a rentable loft space. Also chose a venue that involves less travel for everyone when possible.
  5. Invite less people. If your wedding includes 500 guests and you have a larger budget then go for it. But it will be harder to be minimalist with that many people. Also think of all the transportation and the effect on the earth that many people have. My suggestion is 100 or less. I have a relatively big and intimate family (I am planning my mom’s wedding right now) but the groom has a very small family. Our total is under 50 people which is great because it’s a backyard wedding. Less people means less stuff to borrow/buy and less trash/waste/pollution. In addition, you get to spend more time with those closest to you and things become less stressful when you only have to worry about 20 people. Or 100 instead of 500. Here’s a secret: you actually don’t HAVE TO worry at all. But you might because parties can be a stressful thing to coordinate. Hiring a planner might help and don’t hesitate to ask your friends and family to lend a hand. Most people are not only willing but eager to help. I like employing a lot of people and giving each person one or two tasks so they aren’t overwhelmed or outright refuse.
  6. Borrow instead of buying or use what you already own. When I say borrow, I mean getting items for free for a temporary use. I do not mean renting, but I will get to that later. Let’s say you have a wedding of 50 people and you want an array of desserts to serve because you love desserts. Ask friends or family members to brings pies or cakes. If you get just 5 cakes or pies that feed 10 people each then you’re set on dessert and it didn’t cost you anything. Bonus points if these desserts are homemade and involve reusable pie dishes and washable serving utensils. Things you might be able to borrow: clothing, accessories, transportation, glasses, plates, utensils, decorations, chairs, tables, and services. Bartering for services is also a great idea. If you’re a graphic designer, offer to make business cards for your photographer. Or if you have a friend who does photography ask them to take photos in lieu of a gift. Also this all applies to using what you already own. Do you own a white dress (or any colored dress, or any clothes) that you’d like to wear? Do you own string that can be used to decorate mason jars that you also own? Think hard about using your own stuff before going out and getting more items.
  7. Rent instead of buying or resell what you buy. Ok, so you don’t own an outfit you want to wear. Rent it instead. Rent the Runway is great for dresses and jewelery. You can rent everything from outfits to decor to plates and napkins. Think about renting to keep your personal belongings to a minimum and encourage others to use the items after you. If you can’t rent it then buy it and resell it. There are multiple sites dedicated to reselling wedding items but you can also use Craigslist or Freecycle. If you don’t need the money then donate. You can also do this with flowers by donating them to a local nursing home or letting your guests take them home.
  8. Give the leftovers to your guests. Did you make too much food? Pack it up and send it off with the relatives. I don’t think this is tacky at all because I would do the same thing at a party. Offer to everyone but only give to those who agree. Don’t force people to take stuff home if they don’t want it. This also goes for decor. Send them home with the flowers, vase and all if you want, to avoid taking home 20 arrangements (or 6). Balloons, streamers, lights, table cloths, basically anything you did not rent or borrow and do not want to keep. Try this first and then donate or resell/recycle the rest.
  9. Use less stuff, especially decor. Do you love the look of a single daisy in a glass bottle? Make that your centerpiece. You don’t need a dozen different types of decorations when three or four will do. The most minimalist design I would imagine looking good is a great venue with simple centerpieces (see daisy idea) on rustic tables or over table cloths. Maybe something hanging from the ceiling like lights or garland. That’s it. No giant swaths of fabric or elaborate tablescapes with disposable items. If you don’t like flowers, skip them all together! This is becoming a more popular idea and some people make reusable flowers or recyclable ones instead. Removing flowers from your wedding cuts down on pollution (from transportation), water, and general waste (the wrappers around the flowers, floral tape, those food packets, the vases). However, as I said, I love flowers but I would take away other elements to focus on that and get them local/organic when possible and use as few as I feel happy with. The venue will help.
  10. Skip the favors or chose wisely. I hate the idea of favors. The guests came to your wedding and the free food (and booze maybe) is the gift they get. I don’t give gifts to dinner guests besides food and good company. But if you really want to give favors I suggest spreading your eco-friendly attitude. Give away baby trees (seedlings) or seed bookmarks. Donate to charity in their names (or instead of asking for wedding gifts ask that they donate). Food is also a good choice. I went to a wedding last year that had specially made chocolates (no wrapper) as a part of the centerpieces and I ate like three. If you seat 10 people to a table then you can arrange 10 little items as the centerpiece and ask them to take them as they leave (e.g. little succulents).
  11. Have separate bins for recycle, compost, and garbage. Make sure to label these clearly like they do at most stores and list what can and cannot go in each. This is a really simple way to cut back on waste and if you use real plates etc. it’s possible to have no waste. That is assuming you have access to a compost heap or facility. Also, if you chose compostable plates or other items make sure your facility can take them otherwise they’ll have to go to the landfill (I know, it’s kind of a flawed system).

Do you have any tips or ideas for an eco-friendly or minimalist wedding? Have you been to one? What was your favorite part? I highly suggest using Pinterest to look up “minimalist wedding ideas”.

Removing Facebook: Conclusions in my Social Experiment

Previously I wrote about going off Facebook for a month. I deleted the app off my phone, and stayed off the site on my computer entirely. I did keep the messenger app to stay in touch with friends who prefer it to paid texting and I did have to log in to my account through third-party websites to use them (e.g. Spotify). Let me just start by saying that I did not make it the 30 days I had planned. I made it 20 and then gave up after Valentine’s Day because I wanted to know if anyone I knew was up to anything interesting that I could go to. But I want to tell you about what this experiment did and did not achieve.

Achievements:
1. Learning Self-Control
I learned to practice self control in staying off FB for those twenty days. Each day was hard but I got through it. When I try to diet, I tell myself I can’t have sugary foods and I immediately get defiant and eat a crepe with powdered sugar. Diets last hours for me. Not days or weeks. So it was nice to feel power over myself at least in the sense of going on (or not) FB.
2. I learned what Facebook is…
And what I use it for. At first, I craved being able to tell someone something funny that happened or complain about school (see Twitter below). But then I craved seeing what others were up to. What were they complaining about or laughing about? And that craving had me break down after 20 days instead of waiting 10 more. These are things that I should be looking for, in any basic relationship. A give and take of daily grievances and delights because my boyfriend can’t handle it all (and sometimes straight up doesn’t care).
Also I use Facebook to: share interesting websites or news stories, “networking” (never really works on FB), and to relive the past.
Downsides:
1. Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter, Tinder, and Snapchat
I used all these apps instead to fill my time. However, some days I was more quickly bored with them and decided to read a book or do my homework or watch Netflix instead. None of these things made me more social, instead I just craved more social interactions.
2. I made zero friends in the process.
I did talk to more people, but we never created a lasting bond beyond the conversation. Would I of made new friends by staying on Facebook? Probably not. But the point was to make friends with my new free time. That did not happen.
3. It wasn’t enough to force me out of the house.
I made a few trips to coffee shops and spend a ton of time at the library on campus. Did I go to any social events? No. I went on a double date that I was forced into and thought was “meh”. This might be partially because I have no money right now. Like super broke. Without money I can’t go to coffee shops or bars or events that cost money. I justified not going to other events because they were far (transportation costs, time to travel) or just plain scary (I don’t know anyone there!).

In conclusion my experiment failed to achieve what I was after: more social interactions and friendships. I did find out that there wasn’t much I had missed during my 20 day hiatus and Facebook means less to me now than it did before. My next plan is to see a therapist through my school because of my new found social anxieties. Wish me luck!

Blogs I Read and Articles to Get You Started

Right now I only really read two blogs and frequent one website (beyond pinterest, school sites, netflix, and instagram). Each one gives me advice in one form or another on how to best live my life. I like that. The first is the website and it’s mostly interior design/decorating and gardening. It’s a good launching point for other things around the web as well. The second is a simple living blog that I try to read every day because it makes me happy and feel like i’m doing the right thing by living simply. The last is a more minimalist approach to the simple living movement. It’s refreshing. For all three,I gave you a jumping off point so you don’t get stuck on the homepage (or the About Me) section. They are:
Apartment Therapy
So I can drool over the best homes (and pin for future reference). But also so I can learn to take care of my rental space and decorate it. Hit and miss on the advice but the pictures are always beautiful. Instead of one article, since it is a website and not a blog, I’ll start you off with a useful section for those in college or living in a small space.
Slow Your Home
The author is a ‘mum’ and from another country Australia ( uses kilometers and other foreign measurements). But her advice is across the board applicable to most people’s lives. A good post to start with is a part of a series on living simple A-Z (living simple blog): Let’s start with Y.

Zen Habits

Exactly what it sounds like, with a minimalist style. Just one post on each page, I like to read this blog, take in the one article, and move on with my day. Great with your morning coffee (if you’re into that sort of thing). How to Breathe.